HIGHER LEVEL PARENTING
II. PROBLEMS
8. Hitting, Hurting, and Getting Hurt
fr_09808_1VIII. HITTING, HURTING, AND GETTING HURT

The Eyes Have It

The look of fear in this baby's eyes tells you that big sister "loves him too hard." (The doctor removes the heavy toy from near his head.)

Hurtful behaviors are non-negotiable. For safety, you need to draw a line. How you do that is what matters. You can stop them cold without long lectures, without guilt-tripping, and without making kids timid and fearful.

You don't ask them to be good in the years before they have internal controls. That merely sets them up to fail and gives them the experience of being a failure.

You proactively prevent mayhem from taking place

(1) by being physically present,

(2) by avoiding "setup" situations, and

(3) by using adult strength to interrupt overt aggression.

1. Hit and Strike Out
2. A Hair-Puller
3. Reverse Rivalry
4. Body Between
5. Preventing Mayhem
6. Loves Him Too Hard
7. The Green-Eyed Monster
8. Too Rough
9. Gets Kicked at School

 

 

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